“You can’t pour from an empty cup”. This simple yet thoughtful quote is a great reminder for everyone, especially the ones who can’t say no to others but keep saying no to themselves.
The saying is true. If we don’t have enough love, energy and time for ourselves, we have nothing left to give others. And even if we do give whatever little is left, it’s going to leave us feeling overwhelmed and stressed- eventually leading to burnout.
How to identify that you need a refill:
> When you long to keep your mind busy
You find it difficult to be by yourself. You try to avoid the silence, preferably by scrolling on social media.
> When you feel empty
True happiness is something you haven’t felt in a long time. You know you’re overwhelmed and lost. Nothing seems to make you smile.
> When you feel unfulfilled
You want to do more for others when you already have enough to do. Yet it never feels enough. And sometimes, you just know.
To put it in simpler words, if you find yourself in a constant state of fatigue, chances are your emotional cup is empty. Our emotional cup is what keeps us going every day. It is what enables us to have meaningful relationships and compassion. It is what we drink from so we can recharge. Through the practice of intentional living, we must stay mindful of our actions and emotions for our wellbeing.
Luckily, there are small changes that can prevent burnout and fatigue. To begin with, here are 5 easy ways to make sure your cup never runs empty:
1. Learn to say no
Find clear, kind ways to decline without feeling bad about it. Be assertive but polite about it. For instance, you can say, “I’m sorry I can’t right now but I will let you know if and when I can.” This means you are in-charge and taking the call.
2. Set boundaries
This concept of boundaries has always been easier to grasp on maps than in real life. Not setting boundaries would mean saying yes to please others at your own expense. These boundaries are separations we need-emotionally, physically, mentally to feel valued and respected.
3. Put yourself first
Take some time off every now and then. There are a bunch of self-care activities that act as refills. It’s not always a fruity bath or an outdoor walk. Hobbies can be a great way to make sure you’re getting the self-care you need. Pick something that appeals to you and make sure you get a refill regularly. You know you deserve it.
4. Get more sleep
Sleep and mood are closely connected. Studies show that inadequate sleep can often result in poor emotional management. This could have a huge impact on how we react to different situations. When we are sleep deprived, we overlook problems. Be sure to have a consistent bedtime and wake time.
5. Positive self-talk
So many of us don’t realise how much negative chatter goes on in our minds all the time. We tend to internalise this negative chatter as truth. It’s time for this pattern to change. Make it a point to reflect on your accomplishments at the end of each day. Give yourself credit for all the good that you do.
To maintain your emotional cup, always remember to put yourself first. Give yourself permission to prioritise your own needs before everything else. Because when you are healthy and happy, you allow yourself to be your best version for those around you.
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Written by, Angelica Cardoza
